In an increasingly virtually connected world where social media platforms and digital communication tools dominate our interactions, human interaction is struggling, and feelings of isolation, depression, and loneliness are increasingly affecting many individuals. 

Do you remember how easy it was to pick up the phone and call a friend? Now, it needs to be scheduled and arranged. When did we start fearing Spontaneity so much?

 It is time to address and talk openly about these challenges in our society, as we have been through so many transitions in a very short amount of time. We are still processing how society and ways of interacting have changed so rapidly without addressing the devastating consequences of these sudden changes, such as overstimulation, increased sensitivity, and overwhelm (anxiety).

What's going on?

In this new technological era, we live in a continuous state of receptivity to information, direct or indirect, to which we are subjected daily, from smartphones to TV, street advertising, and newspapers. This consistent and ongoing stimulation subjects us to constantly need redirecting our attention and prioritising as we often feel pulled from one side to another.

This inevitable influx of stimuli can impact our well-being significantly, increasing loss of concentration and memory, raising stress levels, addictive behaviours, seeking unhealthy dopamine responses, sleep disruption, sexual unbalances, relational dysfunction and much more.

Loneliness, real or perceived, is not just a fleeting emotion; it's a pervasive issue with significant implications for mental, emotional, social and even physical wellbeing. Research consistently highlights the detrimental effects of prolonged loneliness, ranging from increased risk of depression and anxiety to compromised immune function and cardiovascular health. 

I see it everywhere; people write about it and share feelings of struggle; they struggle within themself and struggle when with others as we seem to have become confused about how to be and connect with others in a healthy and balanced way.

Communities and Healthy Connections are the keys.

Despite the illusion of connectivity we are experiencing, genuine humans cannot be replaced by technology and never will. The antidote to isolation and loneliness is meaningful connections. It is more than ever crucial to recognise the importance of investing and dedicating time to the community for our survival and well-being.

But what is meaningful, Connecting or Authentic Relating? 

Meaningful connecting transcends surface-level interactions and delves into genuine understanding, empathy, and mutual respect. It's about feeling seen, heard, and valued for who you are rather than what you portray on social media or what you achieve professionally. It is about validating your human experience and sharing it with another human. It is not about pretending, achieving or competing but about "Being" while experiencing the moment. 

Meaningful connections are built on authentic relating, pleasure, balance, trust, vulnerability, and shared experiences, creating bonds that can touch the part of us that needs nurture, validation, safety and affection. 

How can we cultivate meaningful connections in the modern world?

Here are my suggestions:

1. Appreciate the little things life offers daily: enjoy the beauty of a nice, genuine gaze from a stranger. A chat on the bus, the smell of the flowers, the warm feeling of the sun on the skin or the gentle touch of the rain. 

2. Practice Active observing and listening: Listening to others and yourself without judgment or distraction is a powerful way to improve connection.

3. Show genuine interest and appreciation in the other. Genuinity is so vital for our interaction. Don't be afraid to be who you are; remember that often, people feel just how you feel and need encouragement to allow feelings to surface.

4. Be vulnerable when appropriate and safe: Being open and honest about your feelings can be a gateway to intimacy and deeper connections.

5. Practice empathy: Allow the other experience to be felt within you, show compassion and offer support and encouragement when needed.

6. Make time to connect: Join a club, volunteer, or pursue a hobby. Seek opportunities to connect with people with different perspectives, backgrounds, and experiences. Schedule time to connect with others, join mindful events and experiences, and meet in person!  

7. Nurture Existing Relationships: Reach out to friends and loved ones regularly, check in on their well-being, and make time for them.

8. Ask for help when needed: Don't be afraid to seek help when you feel stuck and need somebody to support you through challenging moments. Reach out to close friends or family or find professional support if healing is needed to overcome internal barriers and conflicts. 

9. Give and receive hugs or shake hands (when appropriate): Hugs are more than just a simple gesture of affection; they can uplift our spirits, ease our worries, and strengthen individual bonds. Hugs release oxytocin in the brain, promoting feelings of trust, empathy, and attachment, reducing stress and anxiety.