Trauma and Relational Trauma.
What is Trauma?
The word trauma means wound or fracture. In ancient Greek, moreover, τραῦμα also meant defeat. In the past, it was used to identify a physical injury; now, it is also used to describe emotional wounds.
This term also describes events where a part of the self remains “stuck” in the traumatic or adverse experience (memory). The person unable to process/understand the events will unconsciously hold and retain the unprocessed, intense emotional charge.
A traumatic event can compromise the ability to discern and filter reality's stimuli, consequently disrupting the mind's process and perceptions.
Signs:
Avoidance
Dissociation
Anxiety
Insomnia
Intense anger
PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder)
Chronic pain or conditions, and more,
This causes the repetition of specific behaviours, intrusive or repetitive thoughts, and relational circumstances. Exposure to prolonged traumatic situations can generate serious difficulties in interpersonal relationships, changes in mental functioning, confused responses towards situations, and a loss of confidence.
What is Relational Trauma?
Relational or attachment trauma is a sequence of repetitive and consistent adverse negative events and patterns within relationships. RT often occurs in situations where there is a betrayal of trust, chronic neglect, emotional manipulation, physical or emotional abuse, or other harmful behaviours.
Most of our relationships involve different forms of attachments, each serving different purposes and needs. This is why traumatic or dysfunctional experiences often occur within main relationships. Exposure to prolonged traumatic situations can compromise the ability to discern and filter reality's stimuli, consequently disrupting the mind's process and perceptions.
Key aspects of relational trauma include:
Attachment Disruption: Secure attachments are crucial for healthy childhood development. Children who experience neglect, abuse, or inconsistent care may develop insecure or disorganised attachment styles.
Chronic Stress: Repeated exposure to stressors within the relationship impacts mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Impact on Self-Identity: Relational trauma can affect self-esteem, sense of worth, and identity. Individuals may internalise the negative behaviours and attitudes of their abusers, leading to long-term issues.
Difficulty in Future Relationships: People who have experienced relational trauma often struggle with trust and intimacy in future relationships. They may have difficulties establishing healthy boundaries, fear abandonment, or exhibit patterns of avoidance or dependency.
Complex PTSD (C-PTSD): Relational trauma can lead to complex post-traumatic stress disorder, a condition characterised by difficulties with emotional regulation, consciousness, self-perception, and relationships with others.
The healing process can help you recognise dysfunctional mechanisms, behaviours or habits within relationships while understanding and addressing the origins and current unhealthy repetitions. Exploring this within a dedicated space can bring clarity, change the script of your life and help you regain confidence and authority over yourself.
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